Take an inventory. When completing this worksheet, you’ll determine and evaluate the areas that you focus your time and energy, becoming aware of what parts of your life are in or out of balance.
As far as the social heritage, [we have] had to preserve it as Filipinos. We had to be successful in the general population and also to remain part of the smaller community. It is a balancing act between the public and private life. The thing that would symbolize the Filipinos might be the tinikling—the dance between the bamboo sticks, learning to move in and out of the two worlds with good grace, courage, and humor.
So remember: always stay true to yourself and the principles that you initially used to define balance, and always choose to prioritize the relationships in your life. This is a decision that you will never, ever regret.
Bonus note: Using affirmations is a great way to combat feelings of inadequacy and remind yourself of your true identity, especially when you feel like you are not enough, whether at work or at home. So take come time to write out a list of positive affirmations that you can read in the morning. This is a super practical tool that is very useful when it comes to balancing work and family!
Manila Village, in Barataria Bay, was just southeast of Lafitte-15 miles north of Grande Isle and 15 miles south of Myrtle Grove. It was the oldest and largest stilt village, and the most well-known in its time. The large buildings, by all accounts about a dozen or more, were painted green with red roofs. (Perhaps Hearn, who visited in dark weather and had the dramatic perception of an artist, mistook this decoration for "slime," though some Filipinos who remember Manila Village say that the buildings were not painted because the fishermen were too busy to do much decorating.) They were slightly angled in order to shed water. By the time of the first detailed documentation of the buildings, they were used for communal living by the men who worked processing seafood while their families lived inland. In addition to housing, the raised village comprised a fuel dock for boats, warehouses, a general store and a post office, and some private homes. The children who lived on the mainland would be released from school during harvest times to help the family during their busiest season, and those who recall Manila Village and other such communities recall it as an intensely exciting time. On September 9, 1965, Hurricane Betsy's 18-foot swells brought an end to the last of the Filipino stilt villages. The men who lived in the stilt villages during the fishing season joined their families on the mainland and assimilated into other professions.
Get support. Making changes isn’t easy. Rather than struggling and risking failure, get all the outside help and support you can get. You might ask loved ones, friends, colleagues, or seek professional help. This will make changing the behavior easier, bringing your life into a better balance.
The Teacher is likely to become stressed if they experience an absence of trust and too much pressure to conform. They also dislike interpersonal conflict. If this happens, they may become excessively critical, which is antithetical to their normal positive self. One of the signs that the Teacher is in high stress is muscle tics or cramps. To recover, this normally social type must be left alone. Solitude and journal writing can help them get back to normal. Also getting out of the current arena of conflict and taking on a new project can restore their sense of self. Says Josephina, "My old boss and I worked like a charm. I had plenty of freedom and a crew to lead. Then she retired and my new boss was quite different. She wanted to inspect everything I did and insisted upon her way of doing everything. Some of her ideas were good, but others didn't work at all. She wouldn't listen to me. I got a tic in my right eye and had problems sleeping because of restless leg syndrome which I'd never had before. Something had to change. Then I heard about a special project which needed a new team and I applied. I'm now on the team, my tic and restless leg syndrome is gone. I never realized before how much I needed to be trusted and free to exchange ideas on improving things."
Balance. Your pie may show one area of your life which is heavier than others. How much time of your time is spent on the thing(s) that is going well for you? Again, be honest with yourself. Is it that specific area that you spend the most time on? All of the areas in your life should be done with moderation and balance in mind. Otherwise, your life becomes unbalanced and one-sided.
Have fun! If the work you put forth in balancing your life starts to feel burdensome, back off a bit. You are doing this work to become healthy and whole, not to add more chores to your life. Seek out the fun in all your efforts; have a good time with the new experiences while exploring the other areas of your well-being. In the big picture of things, when your life becomes more balanced and well-rounded, the healthier and happier you’ll be. So don’t forget to have fun!
2.Thinking of your life as a pie, divide it into slices and then label each piece with an area of your life that is important to you. (e.g., Family, friends, spirituality, romance, health, work, recreation, personal growth, money, physical surroundings, etc.)
The Champion is usually a bundle of energy, but they can become exhausted if they are overloaded with work. They also will experience stress if their values and principles are violated and they see others in the company being hurt by policies that kill the human spirit. Then they become hypersensitive to what is going on around them. Facts become exaggerated. They have feelings of paranoia and may withdraw. To regain their equilibrium, meditation will help. Kindness and support by others, but not patronization, will help them get back to normal. Says Gloria, "I'd given a number of years of support to one boss, then he started bad-mouthing me. It threw me into a turmoil. I became suspicious of him and everyone else. Then a friend said that the boss was blowing up at everyone, not just me, and encouraged me to look at a position in a new section. I meditated to become centered again, then applied for the job. I love my new job and now life is great again. My old boss retired; he was drinking too much."
There are two main actions that lead to a balanced lifestyle. The first is to understand and respect each of the important areas of your life. The second consists of changing your perspective in the areas in which you are stuck. The exercise below will allow you to see how you’re dividing your time in the pie of your life.